Hello friend,
You’re not alone in this, I’m sure this question has passed through every high school student’s mind at least once. That is actually, an extremely great question. You see, there is no simple answer to this question. There are factors that play into being a popular person, including having personality traits such as friendliness. Another factor could be that the popular person is attractive, or they have a high social status (Shafir et al, 2021). As you might have noticed, the popular kids in your grade might have been the popular kids since probably elementary! So what do you do?
It might seem a bit late, but firstly, you could reflect on your personality. Having a friendly personality could actually help lots with becoming popular! Start with small steps, such as helping a classmate with homework, or join a sports team! It might seem impossible, but it can be achievable. That being said, please do not change yourself to fit into people’s and society’s “standards”. Be yourself, genuinely! You might be popular in the end if you try to change yourself, but you will not be happy. There are healthy ways to become popular, but most of the time, those methods do more harm than good.
Even after if you have found healthy methods to try and become popular, but you’re still not popular? You can try and make life happier and easier for yourself. Take more deep breaths! Drink more water! Get more sleep! After all, taking care of yourself physically and mentally can make yourself look more attractive, and that is a factor of becoming a popular person :)
Citations:
Shafir, Hailey, et al. “How to Be Popular (If You're Not One of ‘The Cool Ones’).” SocialPro, 23 July 2021, https://socialpronow.com/blog/be-more-popular/.