Ah yes, friendzoning. Arguably one of the hardest things to do in school without being called a d**k.
People often associate friendzoning with playing with someone's feelings, which is absolutely ridiculous. REMEMBER! You are not obligated to like someone back just because they like you!
Like most things, there isn’t a set formula for ‘how to XXX’. You’re dealing with different people who hold individual values and experiences that shape everyone in their own separate ways. So, Dear Letterbox is going to give you some tips and pointers.
1) You should tell them why you’re friendzoning them.
You’re simply not interested in a relationship
Not ready for a relationship
Your parents don’t allow you
etc
The list could go on and on, just make sure what you tell them is actually how you feel
2) Maintain contact
To friendzone someone means that you still view them as a friend, that means you’ll be treating the person the same way you did prior. That means you shouldn’t immediately stop talking to them, they’re still a friend. I know it might be awkward for you, but keep in mind it’s also awkward for them after getting friendzoned.
After a while, if you still feel awkward around them, you could start to reduce contact.
3) Be honest and straightforwards about it
Speaking the truth may suck, and it is hard, but sometimes you just have to let them know straightforwardly. There is nothing worse than them thinking that they still have a chance with you. You might hurt their feeling initially, but trust me, it’s better for everyone.
Love,
Dear Letterbox