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Mar 21

This is probably the worst time to ask this, but how should I (as a senior) tell my crush about how I feel and when should I do it? considering we're probably never going to see each other again.



Dear Questioner,


If you have feelings for someone, and you’re not sure what to do, don’t stress it too much. Odds are they like you back. While I can’t necessarily tell you what to do, here are a few tips to help.


  1. Choose an appropriate time and setting to talk to them, preferably in person where you two are alone. I recommend doing it ASAP, however it is up to you to find the perfect time to do it.

  2. Be polite, honest, and straight to the point. I feel like it’s easier said than done, but at the end of the day, it’s better to get your feelings out while also respecting the other person. Tell them why you like them. Being a good communicator is essential for all relationships, platonic or romantic.

  3. Be prepared for multiple outcomes that might occur after you express your feelings. There is a chance that your crush might not like you back, and that’s ok! Rejection is a natural part of learning and life, so don’t stress about it too much. However, there is also a chance that your crush, in fact, does like you, and that makes it worth all the risk.

  4. No matter that they say, respect their response and take it graciously and politely. Try to understand where they are coming from and if they need space and time, give them that. It’s important to respect their feelings and boundaries.

  5. Find closure and focus on communication. Since you mentioned that you are a senior and are leaving soon, the outcome of this endeavor might not be what you’ve hoped for. There are a few different possibilities of things that might happen. They could reciprocate the feeling and end up dating you until the end of the year. If you feel up to it, you could have a long distance relationship during college. Then, when college finishes, you can still be together. Alternatively, they could reciprocate; however, they might not want to do long distance, or maybe you don’t want to do long distance. If that is the case, then think about whether the couple of months would be worth it or if it would be better if you stay friends. Or they might not see you as “more than friends” material. If this happens, don’t worry too much. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you will find someone eventually if that’s what you want. Respect their wishes and move on. I know it’ll be hard, but it’s for the best.


All in all, don’t worry too much and don’t overthink it. All will end well, I promise.


Sincerely,

Dear Letterbox


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