Hi readers.
How’s your relationship going? How’s your girlfriend? Are you guys having problems regarding your partner’s standards of a ‘perfect partner' ? Does she constantly say that “you’re not even as 'qualified' as my friend’s boyfriend” or something like that? Do you get annoyed whenever she says that? If you’re still confused as what she means as a “qualified boyfriend” then this reading is for you!
The standards of being a qualified boyfriend vary in contexts. Standards as a ‘qualified’ boyfriend could depend on your partner. Some people might think qualified might mean as in how much have you excelled in life, as in academics and rigidity, while others might think qualified as in your gestures towards your partner. Or ‘qualified’ could just mean simple personality traits such as honesty, respect, integrity, thoughtfulness, etc. Maybe your girlfriend might think that you have become way too predictable. She knows when you’re going to surprise or what your surprise might even be. Your perspective of being a ‘qualified’ boyfriend might be different than her perspective. It might just be a case of simple misunderstanding.
Some traits of a Qualified boyfriend are:
Good hygiene
Attention: Giving attention to your partner when they’re talking. Even paying attention to the smallest details.
Sense of humour: Making them laugh after a hard day
Respect: Respecting your partner is one of the top traits for a ‘qualified’ boyfriend
Ability to commit
Desire: Tell her that you care about her. Make her feel like you actually want to be her. Infact, don’t just tell her that you care about her, show it to her. Give her random compliments even she’s not specifically dressed up, pay attention to small little details of her, make eye contact while talking, give her random hug, and make time for her.
Communicating: Talk to her; ask her how she is; indulge in conversations with her. Don’t let her do all the talking. Actually be interested in her. However, if you’re the one who’s not interested than there’s a whole different issue going on here.
Love languages: If you and your partner are from different ethnicities and speak different languages, try saying something in each other’s language. For example if you speak french and she speaks spanish, try saying something cute in spanish that would make her smile. Love languages help express emotions other than the regular way. It helps bring creativity into the relationship.
If you have all of these qualities within you and do all of the above mentioned things, then you are a ‘QUALIFIED’ boyfriend. All I think you need is then to really just sit down and talk to her about it. Ask her to explain what she really wants. What are her standards for a qualified boyfriend? I’m pretty sure when everything fails, communication is really the key to solving it.
Sources Used:
https://www.eharmony.co.uk/dating-advice/dating/10-things-that-make-perfect-boyfriend-material/?__cf_chl_captcha_tk__=pmd_kMqBgDtqDpDI8r0OwpDvxoyucGzHuyOlSbtUCrfEp5c-1633435453-0-gqNtZGzNAzujcnBszQh9